Find relief from relationship insecurity, navigate conflict, and build closer connections with the people you love.
You struggle to find peace and calm in your relationship with your partner or other close people in your life. Conflict may be out in the open – leaving you feeling exhausted from the constant bickering. Or conflict may be simmering below the surface – giving you the feeling that you must always walk on eggshells.
Relationship issues come in many forms – disagreements, insecurity, trust issues, infidelity, and more. You find yourself asking whether to stay or leave, never quite sure if it’s “bad enough.” You begin to question what love really means. They say that love and partnership are not always easy, but you wonder when enough is enough.
I work with people like you on an individual basis to overcome relationship insecurity, build confidence, and decide how to approach relationship difficulties. Individual therapy for relationship issues gives you a space separate from your loved one to breathe, reflect, and examine what you want.
My approach guides you to recognize unhelpful patterns, understand the roots of relationship insecurity, and build trust in yourself. We’ll work together to examine what you want and what matters to you most in your relationships and life so that you can choose the best path forward. If you’re also in couples therapy, individual therapy gives you a chance to process separately what emerges and clarify what you want to bring to your couples therapy sessions.
You’re tired of questioning yourself and living with uncertainty about your relationships, and my therapeutic approach can help you build clarity and self-trust.
You may benefit from therapy for relationship issues if you struggle with relationship insecurity, trust issues, infidelity issues, or frequent arguing in your relationship. If your relationship (or relationships) are a frequent source of stress and lead to anxiety or depression, you will likely benefit from therapy.
Therapy can also be a space to explore relationship questions, such as “am I ready to get married or have kids?”, “is this relationship abusive?”, or “should we break up?”.
I help with a variety of relationship problems. Some common issues I work with people on are:
I offer only individual therapy for relationship concerns. I’m supportive of you seeking couples therapy alongside our work, and I am happy to provide referrals for this.
My approach is designed to give you a space separate from your relationship to reflect and identify what you want. If you’ve been struggling for a while in your relationship, you might find it hard to gain perspective, and individual therapy gives you a chance to step back and take a look at how you feel.
Therapy is often helpful in this situation. Being the only one willing to work on a relationship is a lonely place to be, and therapy gives you the space to receive support and build awareness around what you want going forward. We can explore the issues from your perspective and identify the parts of the relationship challenges that are within your control and those that aren’t, and how you would like to move forward given these realities.
During your first session, I’ll be focused on helping you to get oriented and comfortable with the counseling process. I’ll ask you questions to learn more about you and what brings you to therapy.
We’ll spend some time talking about what relationship issues have looked like for you recently, and throughout your life, and we can also explore other areas of your life that you may want to address in counseling as well. I’ll ask you about your hopes for therapy, and we may set some initial goals or intentions for our work together.
Individual therapy for relationship issues gives you a space to slow down and examine your communication patterns in a relationship. We can identify the triggers and painful points from your past that are evoked during arguments, and navigate healthier ways to respond when these triggers arise.
Therapy is a space to explore what contributes to you feeling disconnected, and how you can bring more vulnerability and intimacy into the relationship when that may be beneficial.
Therapy is often a helpful option after infidelity, betrayal, and broken trust. If you are the person who was betrayed, we can examine the feelings that have arisen, identify what you may need from your partner if you decide you want to work towards reconnection and repair, and explore what you want going forward, whether that’s repairing or ending the relationship.
If you are the person responsible for the broken trust, we can explore what led to this moment and how you’d like to approach seeking a resolution with your partner. Therapy is a nonjudgmental space where you can work through feelings of shame, guilt, anger, regret, and more that come up in the wake of being responsible for broken trust.
My approach to relationship therapy is designed to help with any relationship. You may have tension and conflict with a parent, sibling, best friend, co-worker, or adult child. We can explore the patterns involved in these relationships and how you might shift the dynamic towards something healthier. I also work with people not currently in a romantic relationship who want to better understand their relationship patterns or explore issues and insecurities that can come up while dating.
Additionally, I work with people navigating relationships outside of the monogamous and heteronormative spheres - such as queer relationships and relationships that involve asexuality, aromanticism, polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, relationship anarchy, and more.
I recommend planning to meet weekly, at least for the first 6-8 sessions, to allow us to fully dive into your relationship challenges and goals. After that, some people find it helpful to continue weekly until they meet their goals for therapy, and others find it useful to eventually space out their sessions to biweekly or monthly.
How long our work together will take can vary from person to person. Some people can meet their relationship-related therapy goals within 1-3 months, while others benefit from the deeper work than longer term therapy can provide, particularly if you are recovering from longstanding attachment issues or childhood trauma that contributes to your relationship challenges. I’ll give you a more tailored recommendation after we meet and I am able to learn more about your specific needs.
Ultimately, this is a difficult decision that only you can make for yourself, but therapy can give you the space to explore this question and come closer to an answer for yourself. I recommend weighing the relationship as a whole - noticing what life is like day to day with your partner, as well as the overall picture of your relationship history.
I also encourage you to examine how this relationship fits into the bigger picture of your life as well - noticing how long you’ve been working on the relationship, how much of your life you’re willing to devote to attempting repairs, and what effect this person has had on your life (for better or worse).
If you're ready to heal from past hurts, understand yourself better, and move towards a more fulfilling life, let's connect.
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